Heck if you've done all of that get a good sized transmission cooler and pick and choose when put it in overdrive. I would highly advise a gauge to monitor transmission temperatures. Auto trans are usually the first things to give you problems when towing heavy. Warped rotors are right there too.here is my question: can you increase your towing capacity with modifications to your vehicle?
my TT comes it at 6,500lbs- ish, the max combined weight for my "SUV" is 6,000lbs. I have used the Haul-Gauge ODBII and App to figure the combined weight and it shows me to be around 6,400lbs and there is a 10% error margin.
When the SUV was completely OEM, the rear sagged about 2.5inches when the trailer was attached. Tongue weight max on OEM is 600lbs, The was trailer is coming in at 690lbs tongue weight, so I moved batteries to the basement (upgrade to lithium). That dropped the tongue weight to 560lbs.
I installed air bags in the rear springs, larger front calipers (OEM were 2 pot, I went to 6 pot Brembos,) and added an Heavy Duty transmission cooler.
I have no rear sag since adding the air bags, with a weight distro hitch the SUV seems to handle just fine, but I have only moved the trainer from the dealer to my home via surface streets - approx. 20 miles, I have not attempted any highway driving.
I am considering a 3/4 ot 1-ton truck for towing the TT, but in the interim I think I am ok as long as I am not speeding or going too far.