Neal just taught me something! I didn't know that starlink was an energy hog. Starlink is my goto plan, but I am not having to run a web business. For off grid remote internet it's the best service provider I ever had.
In my opinion the number one thing you must have, is a conservative mindset. You know what I mean? Don't run water when you're rinsing dishes, soap up with the shower valve off. Use the water most people let run down the drain while they wait for the hot water.
Turn lights off when you don't need them. The idea is, if you have to hunt water, or dump when the deadline draws near, you may become weary of what could be a wonderful life. One more thing! Washers, though nice require more work and are more inconvenient, than trips to a laundromat (we would (I am by myself now) use several machines and be finished in 1/4 the time needed at home. Not to mention the hassle of getting and getting rid of water).
Solar is the best investment you can make for the life you are considering. A back-up generator is good to have but more important, is as much Solar as you have space for.
I have two systems, one a 24v 200ah battery bank of Northstar blues, a carbon lead technology (Main system). And a 12v 400ah Agm back-up system (no lithium for me! I am against it). Having to revert back to a generator is the most inconvenient, undesirable thing I can think of. So if you rely on electricity SOLAR WITH BACK-UP!!! Oh I have 3000w watts of solar, used panels, with 4@60amp controllers (remember I said back-ups are important).